Friday, October 21, 2011

... be kind ....

i was talking to a friend about values ... really we were talking about the poor values taught on tv .. even on little kid shows there are just disaster people who are portrayed as funny .... whiney is funny ... mean is funny .... disobeying your parents is funny ... girls are supposed to be pretty ... boys are supposed to be tough ... all things that don't ring true at all ....

i said, just to cut through all the junk, i try to teach my kids to be nice ... nothing is as important to me as that ... be nice, kids ... be kind .... it will get you out of some jams ... someone comes up and is being confrontational? just be nice ... it should diffuse the not nice ... so .. be kind ... be kind to me, be kind to each other, be kind to your pals, be kind to people you don't know ... that kind of covers everyone then, right? be kind ...

number two on my list of expectations for my kids? be smart ... but i didn't make a collage, a sign or a painting of that .... work hard, learn stuff, be curious about stuff, read a lot ... be smart ...

i recently read an article ... it said the vast majority of japanese parents say they want their children to be successful .... the vast majority of american parents want their children to be happy ....

i want my children to be nice .... in the long run, i suppose it will make them happy too ....

what's most important to you?

3 comments:

artmom said...

and your kids are smart and nice...and sensitive to others' needs as well....all very important qualities. A group of us today were talking, over lunch, about how the current TV shows ( for anyone-(kids and adults) are really not very good for developing personal goals.....too sensational and self centered.....We mentioned how we miss the "old" shows we used to watch and seem more to our liking now!

shrink on the couch said...

I'd have to say "be healthy" so that you can live a long life of being kind and smart and helpful and creative and curious and active :)

e.beck.artist said...

i love that yogurt ... i might have to start saying that too ...