Monday, November 7, 2011

happy landing

i recently read an article on studio moms called to balance or not to balance .... and basically the author says striving for balance isn't worth the effort cause we can't do it ... go read it ...

ok ... did you read it? i get it ... but i don't agree with it ... because sometimes i do feel balanced ... like i have all the right amounts of the different parts of my life ... no part is boxed out ... no part is taking more time and attention than i want ... that though it might not be fifty fifty balance ... or 20 20 20 20 20 truthfully, it is balanced because i am living intentionally and accomplishing what i choose to accomplish when i choose ...

and i do know that i have balance sometimes because of the startling lack of balance at the moment ... my twins have started high school and the demands on my time are extreme in comparison to last year ... so that put me off balance in that i'm driving more, parenting more, helping more, worrying more ... and that last one? worry? i never used to even have that show up much ... so now to have it really messes things up balance-tifically speaking ....

basically, i feel like i'm back to newborn twins ... sleep deprived and wondering if i'm doing this parenting thing right ... and once the sleep deprivation appears things fall like the way side ... like the menu planning that i'd just started getting good at ... but if three out of five aren't home for dinner, what's the point? and if you don't have a menu plan, the whole grocery store thing seems to be harder .... and the next thing you know, you're out of toilet paper and have to go get that instead of finishing the painting that you've been trying to finish for eons ... or what seems like eons ...

but the good news is, it's not the end of the world if the laundry is taking over the upstairs hallway ... it's not the end of the world if you have another sandwich night ... it is what it is ... and you work on figuring it out ... and you work back to feeling balanced ... which really just means liking how your life is feeling/going/playing out .... making intentional choices ...  not letting the most important things fall by the wayside and dropping the things that aren't doing it for you ....

for my kids, when things are hard, i say just make it to next week .. next week this hard thing/test/paper/tryout/audition will be over ... do your best and make it throught ... so ... unbalanced, you have the coping skill to just tell yourself to do your best and you'll make it through ... when you're balanced, you've made it through and are happy with where you've landed ....

happy landing ...

2 comments:

mal615 said...

Very nice Elizabeth!

cath c said...

well said, and amen.